"Words that forever change your life"

Today  I overheard my daughter Monica talking to a counselor at a new college she is wanting to start.  The counselor was asking her general questions about what she was wanting to go to college for, the classes and credits that she already has from Cleveland State and then she was talking about her family and I overhear Monica say "when my sister died, well she didn't actually die, she was killed"....Those words are the same words I have heard myself speak so many someone dies, they die of natural causes, old age, cancer, premature birth, and the list goes on and on. But when is "killed", their life is cut short by something or someone else, a car accident, shooting, beaten, head injuries, anything but a natural cause. When someone you love is killed, you feel so cheated of the time that you thought you should have had with them. You don't understand why their life was cut short. Even "why did God choose to take them like this". I also believe that the grief process is so much different. Most of the time when someone is Killed there are no answers on why or how it has happened. Many times we are left without answers, without closure, and most of all we are left without the person we love while the person who took their life goes on with theirs. When someone is killed and instantly snatched from your life you are left angry and bitter. You don't know how you are supposed to go on without this person.

I guess what i am saying is the next time you hear someone say "so,and so died or so and so was killed" please think of the difference between the two and how it has affected this person and their family. There is a BIG difference between the two and you may never understand for yourself until you experience it yourself..